Moms: The True Reality Stars

I admit it. I generally don’t watch “reality” shows. The only one that has piqued my interest is Bear Grylls’ “Man vs. Wild.” The rest seem to be a mixture of narcissistic, dysfunctional people in various settings. I get enough reality in, well, reality itself.

“Reality” entertainment is popular because it helps us escape from our own reality. We can feel better about our marriages when we see the train wrecks of others. Our homes look a lot cleaner after watching an episode of “Hoarders.”

In some ways, our celebrations of Mother’s Day may be designed to escape from reality — the reality of how difficult it is to be a mother. Could it be that in our desire to celebrate motherhood, we sometimes paint an unrealistic image of a perfect mom that leaves many of our mothers feeling like failures?

The “perfect” mother must be a super woman! She spends hours before dawn in prayer and Bible study, has breakfast ready for her family when they wake, their clothes are clean and ready for them to wear, and as the children leave for school and her husband for work she is also on the road to her “outside” job. At the end of the day, dinner is prepared, children are bathed, stories are read, and she is her husband’s vision of romance. The “perfect” mother supposedly does this every, single, day.

But in reality, few of our mothers bat 1,000 every day. Who does? The reality is that many of our mothers are faced with unrealistic expectations that foster feelings of guilt and inadequacy.

The reality is that this Mother’s Day some mothers will not have their children with them. Some will be grieving that they never got to get to know their children before they left them for Heaven. Yes, they look forward to seeing them there, but they still hurt.

Others will be heartbroken because their children are too busy for them even though they poured out every ounce of their time, energy, and money to help them prepare for adulthood. These mothers only want some time with their children, but “they have their own lives now” and all she has is memories.

Some of our mothers have grown up being abused in dysfunctional homes and are obsessed with not making the same mistakes their parents made. As a result, they may feel even more pressure to indulge their children in order to gain the love they didn’t receive from their parents.

And this Mother’s Day will also be a painful reminder to many women that for some reason, God has not chosen to give them children. They have lost track of how many doctor visits they have made and how much money they have spent just to hold their own child. Sometimes it is hard for these dear women to believe that God has a plan when they have so much pain.

Look around you on this Mother’s Day. Do you see the elderly mother? Did you notice the young mother who is now a widow? Have you seen the mother who brings her children to church so they will know God, but has to do it alone because her husband has other plans? Do you see the single mother who is barely getting by?

Remember the stories of mothers in Scripture. None were perfect. Some failed. But many found strength in God and left a legacy we celebrate to this very day. Today’s mothers need to know that the same God Who comforted, protected, provided for, and used mothers to rear children who changed the world is still God today and willing to use them too.

Dear moms, be encouraged! You are not alone. You don’t have to be perfect. You are leaving a legacy. And you are loved.

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. (Prov. 31:30)

About Mark Bordeaux 18 Articles
Mark's journey began in Jacksonville, Florida when, as a student at Trinity Christian Academy, he heard the Good News that God truly loves people, but we are separated from Him because of our sin. Each of us have not only inherited a propensity to disobey, but have chosen to go our own way, rather than God's way and experience a personal relationship with Him. In his own words... "Although I had been a church member since my childhood, I realized that I knew "about" God, but did not "know" God in a real and personal way. The realization that God loved us and paid the ultimate price for our sin by sending His Son to be our sacrifice on the cross and rise from the dead to rescue us became clear. I also realized that if I did not surrender to God and by faith accept His Son's sacrifice for my sin, I would continue to be alienated from God. Even though I did not know much about the Bible and certainly did not know the evidences for it's accuracy, I knew enough to respond to God. One afternoon after school, I was alone in my home and knelt and prayed to God. I simply asked Him to forgive me of my sin and take me to Heaven when I died. I was truly sorry for being a sinner and sincerely asked Him to save me. When I finished praying and had trusted God to save me it was as though the separation between God and me, that I sensed earlier, was removed. In child-like terms I knew I was not 'in trouble' anymore and that God had forgiven me. In my mind, it was almost as though Jesus had His arms wide-open saying, 'It's alright now!'" As a college student, Mark grew in his commitment to Jesus as he attended Hillcrest Baptist Church in Jacksonville. Regularly hearing the Bible taught and preached as well as being around other young people who loved Jesus helped his commitment deepen. Mark continued to mature in his relationship with God as a member of First Baptist Church of Jacksonville, Florida. Not only did he grow in his commitment to Christ while at First Baptist following Christ he met the love of his life, Debbie, who has been his partner in life and ministry ever since. His first experience of introducing someone to a relationship with Jesus by sharing the Good News was at First Baptist. Later, he was invited to preach at the city rescue mission and was amazed when five men professed to receive Christ. The joy of having a part in what God was doing sharpened his focus even more. After graduating with a degree in Broadcast Management in 1980, he chose to serve God in Christian broadcasting. His first job following college was as the program director of a Christian radio station. He began receiving invitations to speak at area churches. Again, people responded to God's invitation of salvation. His call to full-time ministry continued to be confirmed. When he heard that a local church was searching for a youth minister he applied. The church called him to serve and he left broadcasting and began the adventure of full-time ministry. Since beginning as a youth minister he has served as an associate pastor, pastor, and senior pastor. He has been humbled to serve in eight churches in five states over a period of more than 30 years. He earned a bachelor's degree in Biblical Studies from Luther Rice Bible College, a master's degree in divinity (with languages) from The Mid-America Baptist Theological Seminary, and is currently in the Doctor of Ministry program at the Billy Graham School of Church Growth and Evangelism at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. Additionally, he has made annual trips to the former Soviet Union since 1995 to train Russian and Ukrainian pastors and church planters as well as assist International Mission Board personnel in evangelism and church planting projects. He continues to study Russian and often brings groups to experience international missions first hand. Mark also serves as a Coach-Consultant for the South Carolina Baptist Convention. He says, "Encouraging Biblical church health and growth is deeply rewarding. I cannot think of anything that has a greater impact on the world than a united body of believers following the Master and fulfilling His mission." Mark desires to glorify God and further His Kingdom by helping people discover life worth living in Jesus Christ.

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